tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post7404974174783217881..comments2023-09-20T00:13:37.931-04:00Comments on One Good Thing: "Nay, We Are Four!"Mandy Hitchcockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14365577216317740232noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-545328497994566382010-10-18T08:39:08.661-04:002010-10-18T08:39:08.661-04:00Mandy,
It is not too much not to want to "re...Mandy, <br />It is not too much not to want to "remove" Hudson. She will forever be a part of your family, nothing will change that. <br /><br />I also met the wonderful nurse that Dabney spoke of in her comment. (MaTante often forgot who she had spoken to, so I guess she asked this poor woman the same question more than once). But she asked "how many children do you have?" The nurse answered "I have 3, 2 are with me and one is with the Lord." I thought it was a thoughtful way to answer a hard question. <br />-ShelleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-62933503620108574632010-10-16T16:32:56.039-04:002010-10-16T16:32:56.039-04:00Having once been in your shoes I can appreciate al...Having once been in your shoes I can appreciate all the encounters with heartache that ordinary (to other people) things can bring. Blessings to you on this difficult journey. (from a friend of Melynn)Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03310167742699434598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-2116645149945979702010-10-14T09:29:45.671-04:002010-10-14T09:29:45.671-04:00Thank you so much for sharing this poem - it's...Thank you so much for sharing this poem - it's amazing. I love how fiercely loyal, incredibly persistant, determinedly loving, and wise beyond her years that "Simple Child" is. I know someday this little one you're growing will correct a daft stranger's assumptions and take pride in acknowledging his or her love for big sister Hudson. Your deep love for Hudson is such a wonderful gift that you can share with this new little person.<br /><br />I had the same experience receiving emails from babycenter.com after Naveen died. I didn't think about what would happen in subsequent pregnancy - just like you, there's no way I'd be willing to remove him either. I'm sorry you were faced with that extra painful reminder but inspired by how you responded to it. As always, I'm so impressed by the amazing job you are doing on this journey that no one should have to endure.Staceyhttp://rememberingnaveen.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-52251104954290993012010-10-13T22:10:18.036-04:002010-10-13T22:10:18.036-04:00Wow that's a beautiful poem. Hang in there Man...Wow that's a beautiful poem. Hang in there Mandy-just keep reminind yourself how hard the beginning of pregnancy is - I'm sure it is making everything more difficult to bare. But it will get better. And as far as number #2 is concerned, I prefer to think that she feels all your love for hudson - not the grief.subhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193886435779667689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-92166632290869950872010-10-13T16:54:33.568-04:002010-10-13T16:54:33.568-04:00Mandy, what a beautiful post. I see light coming ...Mandy, what a beautiful post. I see light coming from the darkness, and your babies are revealing it to you. When asked about my children, I begin with my oldest and then share about losing Joe in Afghanistan. I feel responsible for moving the conversation along and will then talk about his little girl. Hudson will be a part of you and Ed and every one of your children forever...that's the ONE GOOD THING! Love, HelenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-76344330417560520852010-10-13T14:44:49.310-04:002010-10-13T14:44:49.310-04:00It's rather harsh that a dead child is not an ...It's rather harsh that a dead child is not an option at babycenter.com. They live and thrive or they disappear?<br /><br />Not cool.AnnaBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01614241329182982677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-14692076723206283362010-10-13T11:50:14.078-04:002010-10-13T11:50:14.078-04:00I love that Wordsworth poem.
This post hit home...I love that Wordsworth poem. <br /><br />This post hit home. Sadly, many people I encounter refer to my son as my third child. Even the L&D nurse during Ryan's delivery kept referring to this as my third delivery (and I had JUST told her that our third child died in infancy). I don't know if this sort of behavior is a reflection of our society's complete denial of death and particularly the death of children, or that people are just idiots and don't really listen. Probably both.<br /><br />Anyway, Hudson will always be your first. Don't let the world forget that.<br /><br />OliviaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-87543040889541499082010-10-13T10:50:38.019-04:002010-10-13T10:50:38.019-04:00I knew as soon as I read the first sentence where ...I knew as soon as I read the first sentence where this was going because I used the same tool for my last pregnancy and have older children as well. I applaud your decision to leave Hudson's info on Babycenter. You are still 4, indeed.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17002360993206729015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-45410432007045193552010-10-13T09:10:25.548-04:002010-10-13T09:10:25.548-04:00Four you are and four you shall be unless you choo...Four you are and four you shall be unless you choose to increase that down the road. Hudson cannot be erased by something as simple (and horrible) as death. Her spirit, her heart, her soul live on through her wonderful and loving parents, her family (present and future) and the large community of friends who surround her. Wishing it were different, but hoping for so much joy to come,<br />ClaireAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-9686378566790365752010-10-13T00:24:28.536-04:002010-10-13T00:24:28.536-04:00Nay you are four, and perhaps the future of more. ...Nay you are four, and perhaps the future of more. Hudson remains with us always. ReneeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-2950396641137459422010-10-12T23:10:04.119-04:002010-10-12T23:10:04.119-04:00Nay, you ARE four, and you always will be. That W...Nay, you ARE four, and you always will be. That Wordsworth, he always knows just what to say. <br /><br />What's funny about this post to me is that I actually deleted my entire babycenter account (not an easy feat) because it wouldn't let me alter the things I needed to alter. Ironic,yes?tylersmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09901435289448213045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-13319978299672072122010-10-12T21:21:40.704-04:002010-10-12T21:21:40.704-04:00Earlier you wrote of having a two and a half year ...Earlier you wrote of having a two and a half year time-line between Hudson and Tiny Baby HItchcock-Chaney. I applaud your decision to leave the progresso'meter up for now. I think it is tracking a lot more than just what would have been. <br /><br />In the context of including Hudson in your lives as you go forward, the time-line keeper hits a distinctly magical (though bitter-sweet) note, because her place is literally marked in time along with yours and the little Butterbean's.<br /><br />On the other hand, I see how tough it is to maintain balance in the struggle between constant painful reminders and the need to never forget.<br /><br />I hope her name being up there as part of the whole process will help bring some truce.<br /><br />"Nay, we are four!" Indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-25168546725447618852010-10-12T21:11:18.804-04:002010-10-12T21:11:18.804-04:00When we were in the hospital yesterday, MaTante as...When we were in the hospital yesterday, MaTante asked the nurse how many children she had. Without missing a beat she said "My oldest is 26, my baby is 19 and my middle boy will forever be 20 to me, but he's had 4 birthdays with the Lord." She said it so elegantly and sweetly that I knew she had found her way of answering the dreaded question, and was so comfortable with it now that it put everyone at ease. I thought of you, and hope you find your way, too. Hudson will always be a part of your family, and nothing can change that. <br />-DabneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-32377867628232712922010-10-12T20:58:42.885-04:002010-10-12T20:58:42.885-04:00Mandy--
I'm so glad you discovered this poem. ...Mandy--<br />I'm so glad you discovered this poem. I have a friend from high school who died in a tragic accident 4 years ago, and one of his 3 remaining siblings, his sister (who is also my friend) has had this up on her Facebook post since he died. The first time I read it I found it very poignant, but perfect for her family. Because there are 4 siblings in her family and there always will be.<br /><br />Fast forward to your post about your new little one who is on the way, and this poem immediately flashed into my mind, and how it would have so much meaning for the new baby in your belly once he/she were older. I almost sent it to you at that instant, but I forgot. I'm glad you discovered it anyways.<br /><br />Thinking of you, as always.Tracy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14684434690151883944noreply@blogger.com