tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post3367602793311275866..comments2023-09-20T00:13:37.931-04:00Comments on One Good Thing: Ten WeeksMandy Hitchcockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14365577216317740232noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-337519064818394742010-07-28T01:20:02.933-04:002010-07-28T01:20:02.933-04:00I know what you mean about the world turning slowl...I know what you mean about the world turning slowly and in a different time setting. My world usually turns at the pace of all the rest. But throughout my day I catch glimpses of Hudson's photo, I see Cecilia playing with her One Good Thing bracelet, I read your posts, someone asks me how you are doing, I am enjoying a moment with my daughter and I think of you, and my world goes in slow motion, in a trance, and I pause and think, and cry, and close my eyes, and I feel for a split second, a fraction of what you feel, and my world is at turtle speed. We are alongside you all day and night long, Mandy and Ed, even when our worlds are going in different speeds. Hugs and love to you.Mandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11629289260212681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-25979171472754177232010-07-19T22:59:04.939-04:002010-07-19T22:59:04.939-04:00Dear Mandy -- It's so completely unfair in eve...Dear Mandy -- It's so completely unfair in every single way. Just surviving one day at a time, one moment to the next, is an achievement. It's a mark of your strength, though, that you continue to write, and your blog is a tribute to Hudson, and to your overwhelming love for her. I can't think what to say except that I appreciate your courage in continuing to try to describe in words the overwhelming pain you feel. Your words help all of us who think of you and Ed so often every day to feel connected to you in some small way, to bear witness to the terrible unfairness of Hudson's death, and to share in your grief. <br /><br />Patricia B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-28368724729621224772010-07-19T22:26:35.787-04:002010-07-19T22:26:35.787-04:00It is important to you for you to share...but it i...It is important to you for you to share...but it is important to us who grieve with you for you to share. Your gift of putting into words the heart-wrenching pain you feel brings us who witness your pain the great sadness we feel at not being able to help the hurt. As someone in the grief business, your writings express so much of you and the desperation you feel, and the wished for denial that this has happened. I hope you know what impact these are having for us...Hug yourself in the love that surrounds and supports you as you try to embrace this pain and make sense of it....when there is no way it can make sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-44902396881257734972010-07-19T16:39:01.248-04:002010-07-19T16:39:01.248-04:00Mandy, I wish I had some words to say that would s...Mandy, I wish I had some words to say that would somehow make today better for you. I have read and re-read this post with tears welling up in my eyes for you, Ed and sweet Hudson. None of us could possibly feel what you are feeling, but please know that so many people love you, think about you daily, and pray for you constantly. I love Winnie's quote that Sharon posted for you...Hudson is with you always...please try to find some solace in the fact that Hudson is watching over you...I have faith in my heart that you will meet again one day....and until then, I pray for brighter days for you and Ed. Love you guys.Dusted Recordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04872623165471720353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-19518502783446609782010-07-19T16:37:30.589-04:002010-07-19T16:37:30.589-04:00Dear Mandy,
Like everyone else, I so wish there w...Dear Mandy, <br />Like everyone else, I so wish there were something I could do to bring you some peace. It is an utterly helpless feeling that I'm sure you know much better than I. I'll keep coming here and reading your words and crying with you and for you with hope that time will (eventually) bring you some peace and even joy.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06934086303273850194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-797161431125602702010-07-19T16:12:45.443-04:002010-07-19T16:12:45.443-04:00Dear Mandy, I am so, so sorry. And I wish, like ev...Dear Mandy, I am so, so sorry. And I wish, like everyone else, I could come up with some words of comfort or hope. I continue to be amazed that you find words to articulate the pain of living without Hudson -- and that fact makes me hopeful. I’m sorry I don’t have any words. Write on. Scream on. Cry on. Like so many others, I am a witness.Kate Ackley Zellernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-383289342294216682010-07-19T15:25:25.201-04:002010-07-19T15:25:25.201-04:00I read this post and sat staring at the screen str...I read this post and sat staring at the screen struggling. I wondered if others following your posts have moments like this. Moments where I know with all my soul that I can't fix this but I spend hours trying to think of something to say that will bring you just one moment of peace, one moment of comfort, one moment of joy. Just something that will remind you that you are not alone. And most of all, something that will give you hope when yours has been so shattered.<br /><br />I scrolled down and read Shawn's post and had to sigh - - knowing his fear so well. <br /><br />And what I guess we are all trying to say is that we know and we don't know. We mourn with you, cry with you, laugh with you and hope with you. We love you. <br /><br />I know I've said this to you before, but every time I read your posts I think of the Winnie the Pooh quote: "If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together…There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart…I’ll always be with you.” I wish Hudson could say this to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-33071887952622753322010-07-19T15:14:10.026-04:002010-07-19T15:14:10.026-04:00We share in this grief; although you and Ed feel i...We share in this grief; although you and Ed feel it more intensely because you don't get a break from it; wherever you are, there it is also; in much the same way that your love for Hudson will remain constant. Love my dear Mandy, is unrelenting. Love will overshadow the grief, and the day will come when you will breathe again. I have no idea when believing Hudson is gone will be real to any us though. Renee P.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-26367936165860448162010-07-19T14:08:51.125-04:002010-07-19T14:08:51.125-04:00I saw a friend today who lost her term child at bi...I saw a friend today who lost her term child at birth--nothing like what you and Ed are living through, but even now there are reminders of her little one all around her-- an angel hanging from her rearview mirror, a table in her entry with pictures and tiny handprints, another angel hanging from her daughter's backpack. I asked her right after Hudson died if there was anything at all that we could do that would make it easier for you, and she said that the only thing that would change things for you would be time-- something I'm sure you've heard a million times. I don't know how parents make it through this raw time-- I find myself crying many times a day for Hudson, and I never had a chance to meet her. I know that somewhere in the future is a time for you when there will be more good days than bad, when just breathing in and out won't be so hard. I just wish that my saying it would make it come true sooner.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171863825834003035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-20642853673474382742010-07-19T13:11:18.003-04:002010-07-19T13:11:18.003-04:00I fear my comments lack credibility because I have...I fear my comments lack credibility because I have not felt what it feels like to lose a child. I know they lack wisdom, too, because I have no formal training in counseling the grief-stricken and little prior experience in giving comfort. But I share your confusion and sadness over Hudson's passing and wish you better days ahead.Shawn Zellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03731177329678772824noreply@blogger.com