tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post2409201607979364029..comments2023-09-20T00:13:37.931-04:00Comments on One Good Thing: DistractedMandy Hitchcockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14365577216317740232noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-7970985814134951912011-01-20T13:55:45.220-05:002011-01-20T13:55:45.220-05:00Mandy,
It feels like a distracting world, even fo...Mandy,<br /><br />It feels like a distracting world, even for those of us who don't have to live with your kind of pain. It must be so much worse for you.<br /><br />I wanted to thank you again for your blog, as I truly feel like it's opening my eyes to a human experience that I had not thought about much, at least in terms of living with a loss. Seeing it from your eyes has been painful, but I feel better connected to others, and more open to what they may be experiencing behind closed doors.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-65049498175981470802011-01-20T11:05:42.692-05:002011-01-20T11:05:42.692-05:00Mandy, our losses are so very different, but maybe...Mandy, our losses are so very different, but maybe it will help to hear that at nearly one year out, I am finding a return of my concentration. And it feels really good. I mean, it does nothing to diminish the loss of my baby, but it is helping a lot to restore my sense of self. <br /><br />But I don't think I could have forced it any sooner. It just had to happen.BChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459447857128334455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-81296644778056148602011-01-20T10:58:40.493-05:002011-01-20T10:58:40.493-05:00I am with you completely. I find myself "wan...I am with you completely. I find myself "wandering" around the internet. Reading blogs, shopping (but not buying), random searching in a useless attempt to fill the void left by Chris. <br /><br />When I do have the days where I can be more productive and ride a wave of energy, I feel like I pay for it the following day.<br /><br />Just keep trudging through and someday hopefully it will feel less like trying to just kill time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-79755303029644869262011-01-19T23:17:03.977-05:002011-01-19T23:17:03.977-05:00Take each little victory as it comes. I can pictur...Take each little victory as it comes. I can picture the images in the basement and in Hudson's room.. it breaks my heart that we all know these images so well. I recently found out about a movie coming out called rabbit hole.. it looks intense- but a very accurate depiction of life after losing a child. I know it may not be everyone's cup of tea, but there are a few lines that really hit me hard. <br />Thinking of you Mandy..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-31166496905872672642011-01-19T22:45:47.007-05:002011-01-19T22:45:47.007-05:00Mandy, although I cannot begin to fathom your pain...Mandy, although I cannot begin to fathom your pain, I find myself often multi-tasking, especially with the computer. This post was a healthy reminder to me that sometimes it is ok to just "be." Today, I put the computer down for awhile and focused on talking and laughing with my roommates. Thank you for the much needed reminder. Your beautiful family is constantly in my thoughts.<br /><br />One more thing - I am a preschool teacher, and we have been studying penguins this week and last. I immediately thought of Hudson and Jackson when I discovered the story book Turtle's Penguin Day by Valeri Gorbachev. Here is a link to the book on Amazon, so you can take a peek at it - http://www.amazon.com/Turtles-Penguin-Day-Valeri-Gorbachev/dp/0375843744/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1295494547&sr=8-1<br /><br />This may be a great title to add to your home library!Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05440388020197833499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-71795897655076225652011-01-19T16:18:34.823-05:002011-01-19T16:18:34.823-05:00I think I would do well to follow your lead and fi...I think I would do well to follow your lead and find my own buffet and kitchen table equivalent to focus on. <br />I found myself nodding along in agreement to so much of this post.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-88826852491466904282011-01-19T15:34:40.470-05:002011-01-19T15:34:40.470-05:00I totally get what you are going through. I swear...I totally get what you are going through. I swear, it's like a protective body mechanism to just always be surrounded by something, some noise, in order to not let all the sadness in. I am so proud of you for finding some focus this past weekend, and I do think you will find that happens more and more. At least, that's the way it's been with me. Love to you, thinking about you xoxoxotylersmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09901435289448213045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-44793675442229478432011-01-19T13:18:39.303-05:002011-01-19T13:18:39.303-05:00Totally get the distraction. I'm a procrastin...Totally get the distraction. I'm a procrastinator myself and it's definitely been worse since Veronica died. I never attributed it to her death until I read this post. But I spend way too much time doing mindless web surfing instead of actually being productive (not that reading Glow and your blog are unproductive! :) )...Glad your made some progress this weekend. You're inspiring me!xoxo, OliviaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-38515061134542666302011-01-19T11:26:18.585-05:002011-01-19T11:26:18.585-05:00Mandy,
I suffered through a really horrible time i...Mandy,<br />I suffered through a really horrible time in my life several years back, where I was sure I would lose one of my children. For a year, I was just as you are now: distracted, needing to fill any quiet with something to keep the pain out. It was the internet, the TV, a movie, anything...and I flipped from one thing to the next. I almost didn't recognize myself.<br />As many people have said to you since Hudson's death, whatever you do to survive is what you need to do. Accomplishing tasks is nice, but not essential. You'll find a rhythm at a point, albeit altered.<br />Big hugs,<br />ClaireAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6239796424430952907.post-26633534713024321732011-01-18T22:33:27.395-05:002011-01-18T22:33:27.395-05:00Mandy, I have been the same way...I just never tho...Mandy, I have been the same way...I just never thought of it until you put it into words...I know that with the tree project and the book I AM getting a few things done, but most of the time I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels...<br /><br />Thank you~<br />JudyJudy Sloanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05987137963005328558noreply@blogger.com